Perfectionism is described in the dictionary as refusing to accept any standard short of perfection.  Although many “perfectionists” are high achievers, they are also people who are extremely hard on themselves.  As a perfectionist myself, I often experience harsh self-criticism and negative self-talk that can be rather discouraging.

At a subconscious level, many of us experience perfectionism because we feel like we won’t be good enough if we are anything less than perfect.  We tie our self-worth to our external achievements, therefore putting an immense amount of pressure on ourselves to be perfect.  This can sometimes be incredibly motivating, however going through life with this mindset can lead us to having low self-esteem and low self-worth.  Always expecting perfection can be exhausting.

In this tapping script, we will acknowledge the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect, and then begin the process of cultivating self-acceptance.  The antidote to being a perfectionist is accepting yourself and honoring your worth no matter how perfect or imperfect something turns out.  This self-acceptance can set us free and bring us deep inner peace; something perfectionists struggle to feel.

Tap along as we shift our mindsets from perfectionism to self-acceptance and inner peace.

Rate your level of perfectionism on a scale of 0-10, with ten being the strong feeling of being a perfectionist, and zero being no feeling towards being a perfectionist.

Let’s being.

KC: Even though I’m a perfectionist, I choose to love an accept myself.

KC: Even though I feel like I need to be perfect, or else I’m not good enough, I choose to love and accept myself.

KC: Even though I’m a perfectionist, and I expect myself to be perfect, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

EB: I’m a perfectionist.

SE: I strive to do the best.

UE: I strive for perfection in everything I do.

UN: It’s how I get things done.

CP: This pressure I put on myself helps me succeed.

CB: But sometimes chasing perfection can be exhausting.

UA: Because if I don’t achieve perfection, I beat up on myself.

TH: I punish myself for not being perfect.

EB: I get mad at myself for not doing better.

SE: Sometimes I know how to do better

UE: I just don’t execute it

UN: And that makes me mad at myself

CP: Because I know I can do better

CB: I expect myself to do better

UA: I expect myself to be better

TH: I’m hard on myself if I’m not perfect.

EB: It’s hard being a perfectionist.

SE: I want to control things to make them perfect

UE: And if I can’t make things perfect, I feel out of control.

UN: If I don’t achieve perfection, I feel worthless

CP: I hate doing a bad job

CB: I need to be perfect.

UA: Other people might not like me if I’m not perfect

TH: I don’t feel good enough if I’m not perfect

EB: I acknowledge all these feelings

SE: I give my body permission to relax.

UE: The world won’t end if I’m not perfect

UN: It’s all okay.

CP: I’m doing the best I can, and that is more than enough

CB: I forgive myself for being hard on myself

UA: I’m doing the best I can, and that is more than enough

TH: I forgive myself for being stuck in this pattern of perfectionism.

EB: It might not seem possible, but what if I could learn to accept myself?
SE: What if I could learn to have more compassion towards myself?

UE: What would happen if I felt worthy enough even when I mess up?

UN: Life would be a lot more relaxing.

CP: I wouldn’t feel so bad when I make mistakes.

CB: I don’t know if I can let this perfectionism go though

UA: I might not achieve as much if I let it go

TH: I might not be the best if I’m not a perfectionist.

EB: But what if I could achieve more?

SE: I accept all these feelings.

UE: I want to make a change

UN: I want to live a more fulfilling life

CP: I want to be nicer to myself

CB: I want to experience more peace

UA: I want to love and accept myself.

TH: So I choose to release anything that’s getting in the way of me feeling this way

EB: I choose to accept myself

SE: I choose to accept myself even when I’m not perfect

UE: I choose to accept myself even when I mess up

UN: I choose to accept myself even when I do reach perfection

CP: I choose to be more compassionate towards myself.

CB: I can still achieve great things and be a little nicer to myself

UA: I can still be accepted by others even when I’m not perfect

TH: I choose to love and accept myself

EB: I am worthy of acceptance.

SE: I will always be good enough, even if I’m not perfect

UE: My self-worth doesn’t depend on how perfect I do something

UN: I will always be more than enough

CP: I choose to acknowledge my self-worth

CB: I am already perfect just as I am

UA: I choose to accept myself

TH: I am worthy of acceptance.